Expect a range of emotions, from sadness to anger, guilt, anxiety, withdrawal, or even resentment. Each child processes divorce differently, so it’s essential to offer tailored support. If your child does not want to talk to you, give them space while reassuring them that you are there whenever they are ready. If they express blame or believe the divorce is your fault, acknowledge their feelings without becoming defensive. Say something like, 'I know this is really hard for you, and it’s okay to feel upset. This is not your fault, and we both love you very much. No matter what, we are still a family.'
Encourage open communication by checking in gently, using activities or journaling if direct conversations are difficult. Offer professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to give them an additional outlet. Consider informing their school so teachers and counselors can monitor for behavioral changes and provide necessary support. Additionally, connecting them with peers who have gone through similar experiences—whether through support groups, school counselors, or trusted friends—can help them feel less alone and more understood. By providing these resources, you can help your child navigate the emotions of divorce in a healthy way.