BY: Tania Leichliter
Sep 25, 2023
Transforming Fear Into Action In Decisions Or Decision Debt
Making a decision is hard for many. Not being a good decision maker may live out of fear of not making the right decision.
So how is fear getting in the way of you making decisions in your life? How can you shift your thoughts around your decisions to not produce the feeling of fear?
When we don’t make decisions, we live in decision debt. Another way of thinking about it is not making a decision is making a decision. If you don’t change things, nothing will change from within your own power producing stagnation.
Brook Castillo, The Life Coaching School, talks about the fact that in decision making - everything is optional. “The process of evaluating your life in a way that gives you the power back is imperative. What is interesting is that it often does not mean that you will change what you are doing, but it will change how you feel about it and you think about it.
The best thing you can do for yourself when you are in a decision deficit is know that there is no right or wrong decision. No one can tell you what is good or bad, right or wrong - since it is your decision for YOU. If you make a decision and it proves not to be the best decision for you - you can change your mind and redecide. The same options may not be open to you, but there will always be another decision you can make.
What if you approached decision making with the mindset that when you make a decision that decision was supposed to be made. As Bryan Katie says “everything happens at exactly the right moment” . So just sit with your decision as it was the right decision for YOU at that moment.. Explore the possibilities surrounding that decision and move it forward. Without that decision, you will be in a decision deficit which we have already said produces stagnation.
So is it selfish to make a decision based purely on your genuine desire for something different? Some sit in decision deficit because they are concerned that it will hurt another person - even if not making that decision is hurting themselves. Do you believe that you should suffer silently while sparing the other person (s)? Would that be being true to yourself towards living an authentic life? It is not that you are being selfless - you are lying to yourself. Then consider how long can I live in that world?
Living Authentically Through Decision Making
Be true to yourself, love yourself, hold yourself to a high standard of integrity to live an honest life. Hold love for anyone and everyone else involved with compassion and empathy without sacrificing yourself in the process. Make decisions from a place of peace.
The more decisions you make consciously, the better - but know that you have to make them. You will never know what is possible if you live your life in a decision deficit.
- The thought of losing what you have
- The thought of not getting what you want
Fear and Decision Making
So how is fear getting in the way of you making decisions in your life? How can you shift your thoughts around your decisions to not produce the feeling of fear?
When we don’t make decisions, we live in decision debt. Another way of thinking about it is not making a decision is making a decision. If you don’t change things, nothing will change from within your own power producing stagnation.
Consequences of Indecision
Brook Castillo, The Life Coaching School, talks about the fact that in decision making - everything is optional. “The process of evaluating your life in a way that gives you the power back is imperative. What is interesting is that it often does not mean that you will change what you are doing, but it will change how you feel about it and you think about it.
The best thing you can do for yourself when you are in a decision deficit is know that there is no right or wrong decision. No one can tell you what is good or bad, right or wrong - since it is your decision for YOU. If you make a decision and it proves not to be the best decision for you - you can change your mind and redecide. The same options may not be open to you, but there will always be another decision you can make.
Embracing the Decision-Making Process
What if you approached decision making with the mindset that when you make a decision that decision was supposed to be made. As Bryan Katie says “everything happens at exactly the right moment” . So just sit with your decision as it was the right decision for YOU at that moment.. Explore the possibilities surrounding that decision and move it forward. Without that decision, you will be in a decision deficit which we have already said produces stagnation.
Making Decisions from a Place of Peace
So is it selfish to make a decision based purely on your genuine desire for something different? Some sit in decision deficit because they are concerned that it will hurt another person - even if not making that decision is hurting themselves. Do you believe that you should suffer silently while sparing the other person (s)? Would that be being true to yourself towards living an authentic life? It is not that you are being selfless - you are lying to yourself. Then consider how long can I live in that world?
Decisions should not be made in order to change how you feel.
Clean up your thoughts about your decision first, which will produce a different feeling, then make a decision based on how you feel. When you do not feel anxious or in a hurry, and you don’t need immediate relief from anxiety or pain - then you know your timing to make that decision is right. Never make a decision to get out of pain, fear, or to make yourself happy. Can I process my pain, can I forgive and be free, and am I open to love myself. Always clean up the negative emotion first.
Clean up your thoughts about your decision first, which will produce a different feeling, then make a decision based on how you feel. When you do not feel anxious or in a hurry, and you don’t need immediate relief from anxiety or pain - then you know your timing to make that decision is right. Never make a decision to get out of pain, fear, or to make yourself happy. Can I process my pain, can I forgive and be free, and am I open to love myself. Always clean up the negative emotion first.
Living Authentically Through Decision Making
Be true to yourself, love yourself, hold yourself to a high standard of integrity to live an honest life. Hold love for anyone and everyone else involved with compassion and empathy without sacrificing yourself in the process. Make decisions from a place of peace.
The more decisions you make consciously, the better - but know that you have to make them. You will never know what is possible if you live your life in a decision deficit.
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